How can we move beyond our emotions and thoughts?
Aug 20, 2020
The 4 step process to move beyond our emotions and thoughts that hold us in limbo and keep us stagnant is as follows:
Recognise patterns:When we are going through the experience, the patterns, feelings thoughts and emotions, feel like reruns of the same show.
We are likely to have felt these feelings of fear, guilt or doubt and incompetency before in previous experiences, which is why they pop up again so strongly.
The thoughts are repetitive, we find ourselves thinking the same things again and again, “ I should be doing this, I should have done that,” or in the case of losing a job, “ What did I do wrong? Why didn’t I this or that? My boss never valued me.”
It is important to recognise these patterns of thinking and feeling, that have a hold over us so we are able to become unhooked.
Label thoughts and emotions accurately:It's good to label our thoughts to create an objective lens.
When thinking, “ My boss...
How can we manage our emotions and thoughts in a healthy way?
Aug 19, 2020
It is exhausting when emotions and thoughts take hold.
It has a snowball effect stopping us in our tracks from living and enjoying our lives.
We become rigid in our thinking and this isn’t healthy.
We move forward by understanding and processing these emotions.
It is important to recognize what's going on and having a way to navigate through everything we are experiencing.
Dr Susan David and her team have developed a way to move beyond our emotions and thoughts that hold us in limbo and keep us stagnant.
The four step process is as follows:
Recognise patterns Label thoughts and emotions accurately Accept ThemAction on your valuesResearch shows that attempting to minimize or ignore thoughts and emotions serves only to amplify them.
Gaining emotional agility will help you to begin the process of noticing when you are being absorbed by your thoughts and emotions. This will help you lead yourself out of old patterns that do not serve...
Do you struggle to manage your thoughts and emotions?
Aug 18, 2020
When something happens in life that is testing, do you struggle to manage your thoughts and emotions?
Does it all seem overwhelming?
Do you lay awake at night and ruminate over and over again, different scenarios, what ifs, whys and how will this pan out?
Do you question yourself and what you are doing, doubting your abilities to make people happy, meet people's needs whilst trying to maintain your own sanity and strength?
Do you choose to ignore, deny or embrace your emotions?
Certain life experiences can cause us to react and respond in certain ways.
These experiences trigger our emotions and hence our interactions with the world around us.
Our responses can have either a negative or positive impact on the direction and course of our lives.
Take for example if someone has lost their job. They may be experiencing so many doubts, fears and worries about how to move forward.
There are questions leading to how to provide for the family, how to pay the immediate...
What is emotional agility?
Aug 17, 2020
What is emotional agility ?
Dr Susan David a psychologist and researcher of emotions and happiness described emotional agility as the following:
“Emotional agility is a process that enables us to navigate life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind. The process isn’t about ignoring difficult emotions and thoughts. It’s about holding those emotions and thoughts loosely, facing them courageously and compassionately, and then moving past them to ignite change in your life.“
Emotional agility is the ability to be malleable in a life circumstance, take a step aside or form a bird’s eye view of what we are experiencing, thinking and feeling, allowing us the space to work through it all, without being consumed.
It is a process that gives us the insights to move forward in a healthy way, that enhances our growth and well-being
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Simran K. Rattan MD
What can you do to manage pain of the spirit?
Aug 13, 2020
What can you do to manage pain of the spirit?
It is during this time, of spiritual upheaval, the Universe can be our closest experience to love, strength and protection to call upon.
It is important to turn to someone we trust who will support us through these changes.
The following can help start the healing of the spirit during this hard time: (Be mindful of your health partners (patients) beliefs when recommending)
While it may feel like unbearable or you are losing hope, this is the exact and precise moment to seek help from the specialist, a chaplain or spiritual care professional.
Connect to your supports (family, spiritual leaders, religious leaders etc)Stay connected to people you trustPray and connect with worship, read scriptureSurround yourself with loving peopleDisconnect from anything that has the ability to sow seeds of doubt MeditateWhat are some risk factors for spiritual pain?
Aug 12, 2020
Here are a few:
Persons are at risk for spiritual pain when they
have:
Deep feelings of loneliness or abandonment.When they hurt from missing loved ones, living or dead.Have no community, social support, absence of visitors.Begin to lose hope in their health and lifeSpiritual pain can sometimes be so personal for some they have a hard time expressing that they have it to their community. Sometimes because they fear judgement or even judge themselves, or maybe they don’t even know what the distress is. We can help many if we can start taking a spiritual history and assess the needs of the spirit and if there is any distress.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Simran K. Rattan MD
What are the signs & symptoms of spiritual distress?
Aug 11, 2020
Spiritual distress is experienced differently by people.
It is present when people experience conflict between their beliefs and actual life events.
They say any variety of the following: "I don't deserve this;" "I never hurt anyone." "Why is this happening to me?
Signs and symptoms of spiritual distress include:
Expressing a loss of futureFeeling abandonedDistress, despair, withdrawalNo joy in anythingPain is fixedFeeling trapped, or an outcast and aloneAnger, shame, guilt, hopelessness confusionPreoccupation with selfFeelings of depression and anxietyDifficulty sleepingFeeling abandoned by God and personal communityQuestioning the meaning of life or sufferingQuestioning beliefs or sudden doubt in spiritual or religious beliefsHyper sensitivity to others and the energy around usVisions and overwhelming sensation, intense emotionsHonouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Simran K. Rattan MD
What is spiritual crisis/distress, pain of the spirit?
Aug 10, 2020
Have you experienced an event that has led you to question yourself, your identity, your faith and the presence of the innate and all pervading life force?
Or maybe you experience an event that led you to question your meaning and purpose in life?
Has this resulted in you feeling so distraught, you felt you were alone, had no one to turn to, were scared, vulnerable and fragile?
During this time did you feel fear, lack of self worth and Self esteem?
You never thought you would get beyond, never thought you could heal from it or experience peace again.
Pain of the spirit can occur when we have experienced something traumatic or challenging, that rocks our world and all that is in it. It could be the loss of a loved one or relationship or a sudden change in employment or a severe physical illness that has impacted on our ability to live full productive lives.This change has caused us to become emotionally distraught and is destabilizing to our life.
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How can we support others through burnout?
Aug 07, 2020
How can we support others through burnout?
It is important to look out for each other in our field. Keep an eye on your colleagues, check in on them. Have regular team meetings, to see how everyone is doing and whether or not jobs can be redistributed or allocated during the day. It’s also good to catch up outside of work and have regular monthly after work gatherings, inviting family also. This creates team spirit and relationship. Make sure everyone in your team takes a break and holidaysHonouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Simran K. Rattan MD
How can we minimise burnout in our lives?
Aug 06, 2020
The following is important to do to reduce burnout:
At work:
Take regular breaks at work.It is important to have regular rests and breaks. We need to factor in our lunch and dinner breaks while at work.
We live in a society that glorifies the martyrdom of business and the workplace itself is designed for productivity.
However for optimal and quality care of our patients, we ourselves have to be in good condition, focussed and well rested. Take your breaks.
Delegate work and don't take work home with you Negotiate rosters so they are not as intense and have ample rostered days offDon't work on days you are not rostered
Schedule leave time off workMake sure you organise your leave in advance
At home:
Do relaxing activities on your days offRead a book, sleep, go for a walk and get fresh air.Minimise intense activity on your days off.
Honour yourself, be kind to yourself, allow yourself the time you need to create your own self-love...